Advice - Is my wife, husband or partner cheating on me?

Couple The advice given below is a guide as to what to look for if you feel that your partner, husband or wife may be cheating on you. However, if many of these factors are present we don't suggest you confront them immediately. This would only cause them to refrain from the activity for some time and you could make a false accusation. Take your time and if necessary, seek the help of a company like us.

At the beginning of an affair, the cheating person is usually more attentive to their spouse or loved one. This is due to the guilt associated with the activity. After the affair has continued, the person will often find unnecessary "fault" with their spouse or loved one. Again this can be attributed to their guilty conscious. They tend to begin losing interest in activities at home. Ignoring family events, children, and even routine chores, can be a sign that something is going on. Often there is a general change in their attitude toward the entire family. Look for a sudden change in sexual activity, either more or less often; couple with requests for "unusual" acts. Grooming habits will change. Cheaters tend to become a little more "attractive."

Pay attention to changes in their choice of clothing, cologne/perfume, physical fitness, etc. Clothing can often show signs of an affair. Check for stains, odours, or unknown cologne/perfume. Remember the old saying, "if you play you must pay!" This applies to affairs from a financial point. Keep a close eye on money, bank and credit card statements to see if they are spending more than usual or in places they are not normally involved with.

Keep track of the mileage on their vehicles and compare it with the distance to and from work. If a person should be driving a daily total of 25 miles and there are an unexplained 50 extra miles three days a week, it may be a direct indication of concern.

Here is a checklist to consider when you think they may be cheating. Again, it is not a fool-proof way of determining they are seeing someone else but these are common indicators:

Working a lot of overtime without realising additional income and the overtime comes at a moment's notice.
Excessive use of the Internet. Hides the passwords from you and frequently erases the computer's history.
Additional mileage on the vehicle speedometer.
Hanging out with new friends that you have never met or don't know much about.
Smells of perfume or alcohol.
Hiding the phone/mobile bill or having it posted to another address.
A change in sexual habits. Loss of sexual interest or change in sexual style. Showers often. Slips and calls you a new pet name.
Does not wear a wedding ring. Weak excuses, such as "They're dangerous around machinery".

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